Couples fall in love and marry with the aim of being there for each other during the good and bad times. But, often due to various issues they file for a divorce. When, two persons in a marriage have serious issues in their married life, they file for legal separation. When a person applies for separation, he/she has to state a reason why they want to separate.
It is believed that about 49% of marriages in US end in divorce and only 52% of married couples reach their 15th marriage anniversary. This rate is quite high in Sweden with 64%, moderate in Israel with 26% and lower in Greece and Italy with 18% and 12% respectively.
There are many reasons why couples opt to separate or end their marriage. Some of the important issues which lead to separation are marital infidelity, problems with communication, abuse, financial problems and incompatibility. When partners in a marriage are unable to communicate properly with each other, small problems get magnified and they assume large proportions. Often, the solution lies in discussing the issue and getting it out in the open.
Martial infidelity is one important reason why people separate. When one partner in a marriage discovers or suspects that his/her partner has been cheating, this often becomes unbearable for the other partner. Cheating is a serious issue which often lands the couple in a court, seeking separation from their partner.
Other reasons for divorce are abuse and financial problems. Abuse can be emotional abuse, sexual abuse or it also can be some bad habit like excessive drinking or gambling. At times, people hurl insults and belittle their partner. When things become unbearable the person who is suffering this treatment may opt for legal separation. The most common cause usually cited for a divorce is incompatibility.
According to various studies conducted on this subject, it has been observed that people, who have had a happy family life, where their parents have been happily married, have a lower risk of separation. Those who are financially stable or well-off and those who marry a little late say, mid twenties are less likely to face this problem. Certain religions frown upon break-up of a marriage, and couples who follow such religions are less likely to opt for separation.
Legal separation of spouses can have a profound effect on different aspects like - financial, career and emotional. Those who experience a break-up of marriage often have mood swings, problem with concentration, insomnia, fatigue, tension, health problems and other associated problems. Some suffer from depression and have negative thoughts and often have nightmares.
Legal separation has a profound impact on children too. They yearn for the company of both the parents and go through various feelings like confusion, fear, loneliness, uncertainty, anger and divided loyalties. Children suffer the most, as they are unable to understand the reason behind the separation of their parents. Those who witness the breakup of their family often lose trust and faith in simple things, becoming withdrawn, angry and resentful.
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